Family separation and divorce are difficult for all involved. Mediation is a way to make this painful time, less stressful, less antagonistic, and less expensive. Mediation is an alternative approach to the traditional divorce court process. Ms. Scramstad offers mediation services to couples who do not wish to go through the customary process of going to court, obtaining judges’ orders, and inevitable delays.
Our courts operate as an adversarial system. Mediation is the opposite—it is intended to be respectful and collaborative, and is always confidential. Rather than suffering through a series of public hearings or having a public court trial, you meet with Ms. Scramstad, who acts as a neutral third party, using her nearly thirty years of experience to help you discuss and settle all of your issues. In addition, the cumbersome paperwork is completed for you by Scramstad Law, P.C. Because there are no court calendars involved, your settlement can be achieved much more quickly, which can reduce the cost of your separation or divorce considerably. Only you and your former partner dictate the terms and timing of your separation, allowing you both to move forward in your new lives as individuals.
If there are children involved, amicably working together to settle your differences can have long-lasting beneficial effects. Mediation sets a gentler, more positive, and more respectful tone which can help in your communication with each other, which in turn, can help in co-parenting. Healthier communication greatly lessens the potential of future conflict.
Additionally, the mediation process provides an opportunity to model calm conflict resolution for your children.
After the initial separation, some families are drawn back to court as the children get older, their needs understandably change. The flexibility of mediation helps the parents to meet the changing needs of the children. The traditional process requires one parent take the other parent back to court to attempt to change a court order. Mediation allows you to simply contact Ms. Scramstad and arrange for her to help you agree on how to best meet the children’s evolving needs—all without ever seeing the inside of a courtroom.
While mediation does offer many benefits, it is not suitable for every case. If your situation involves domestic violence or the hiding of assets, it is likely best left to the traditional court process. For most people, however, it makes good common and economic sense to attempt to resolve your case through mediation before turning the decision-making power for your family to a judge.